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Book Description
"I just can't be a mother today."
These words have been whispered to God in quiet desperation by mothers who love their children to the depths of their soul, but who are struggling with how hard motherhood is.
Motherhood turns you inside out. Sometimes you feel overwhelmed by how tired you feel; the days go on and on, and you want to be a "good" mom, but you feel like a failure so much of the time. What happened to all your ideals? When did you end up feeling so...lost?
Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson have been to the edge and back. Desperate is the story of one young mother’s trials and one experienced mentor’s priceless exhortations. Desperate is not a book about despair, nor is it a rule-laden mothering manual. It is a bouquet from a friend who has been there, reminding us that we are not alone. Sarah Mae’s unvarnished account of her own struggles mothering three feisty young children is a lesson in learning patience, loving idiosyncrasies, accepting help, and—most of all—leaning on God.
Each chapter includes a brief Bible study with journal exercises to help you find your own quiet center, and get you back into the fray soul-filled and refreshed. Written with candor, empathy, and faith, Desperate is like coffee with a trusted girlfriend; one who knows how hard being a mother can be, and how to navigate the often turbulent road.
This book has been helpful to me. First of all, before I became a mother, I had an ideal expectation much like Sarah Mae's. I pictured myself being so in love with my baby, taking care of the house chores well that my house would look sparkling clean and my baby never cried, that I won't be depressed but happy all the time. Fast forward a few years and a couple kids later, that isn't the reality. I struggle with responsibilities of being a mommy. It is truly hard work. No kidding!
All the topics being discussed in the book really helped me with my struggle of being a stay home mommy cope with her day. I especially like chapter 3 which Sarah Mae discussed about physical discipline which didn't work with her daughter and made her son angry. I initially thought that one size fits all - only and only physical discipline will work towards teaching the toddler to obey; However, consider other method of discipline. Sally Clarkson reminds again and again....that formula doesn't work. We need to lay down our kids at the foot of the cross. I really like how she constantly reminds mamas to depend on Jesus for everything in life. By constantly coming to Him, I can trust Jesus that He'll make everything OK despite my shortcomings.
The questions at the back of each chapter to help with breaking down the issue into "bite sizes" so I can work towards resolving it. In addition, both Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson wrote on their blogs. Sarah Mae wrote her struggles while Sally Clarkson wrote encouragement and bible verses. This is so helpful to read. I usually go visit their sites on tuesdays and thursdays.
This book is like a comforting mentor who come along side of me to acknowledge that mothering really is hard but you are not alone. Other mothers go thru the same things and God will always there to help you if you are willing to give Him your burden.
Definitely a highly recommended especially for a new mom who doesn't know what to expect with life after baby.
I was given a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for posting the author’s interview and/or book review on my blog.
